You and your parenting partner see things... differently.

Parenting alone is a tough experience. Parenting with someone who's vision of what parenting should look like doesn't match yours can be, well, maddening. 

There is a reason that there is an increase in divorce for parents of children with extreme needs. These families are stretched past what a "typically developing" family are.

Progress is possible. IF, and only if, both parenting partners are willing to make changes and see the situation from their parenting partner's perspective.

There is no "right or wrong". There is not finger pointing. There is only figuring out what the parent's ideal future is for the family and creating a roadway to get the family there.